10 Reasons Why I Won’t Tweet, Share, Comment, Reply or Even Vaguely Linger

by Alex on April 2, 2011

I'm not going to share your conent if its too hard

I see it all the time, why even some of the more prolific bloggers do it!

It amazes me and it shocks me, so I want to help remedy it, because to be honest – it’s not doing anyone any good.

What exactly am I talking about? Why, Only the single most important reason that we started our blog in the first place.

COMMUNITY – Social interaction, engagement, having a voice, sharing, indulging, debating, stalking .

Social interaction and community are key to building a successful blog

Blah blah blah bloh bloh blogh blog.. BLOG!

They’re all necessary for the survival of our blog, and whether you like it or not – the core ingredient to a well grounded (and ultimately successful) blog is community -  but there are ten common mistakes oversights that so many bloggers make that not only negatively impact their ability to engage and be engaged, they take less than 60 seconds to fix remedy!

You Want More Social Interaction Right?

Great. Give me ten minutes and I’ll give you a better blog

Community is the single most powerful force online (just look at Facebook, Twitter, ..anything Darren Rowse touches), so if you can create one on your blog then quite frankly, you’re good to go.
But the first step in building this community is in how you interact with others. So Why do you make it so hard for me?!

10 Reasons Why I Won’t Tweet, Share, Comment, Reply or Even Vaguely Linger – and 10 Things You Can Do To Change That!

Don't make your readers roar - make sharing your content easy

Rwoar - it's dinosaur for 'Where's the friggin' RT button?'

  1. I Want to Tweet Dagnabbit!, Why Must you Make it So Hard?
    Twitter is a powerful ally in the blogging world, so make it as easy as possible for me to ReTweet your blog post. If I have to search for a RT button then I don’t or won’t bother retweeting your post. I strongly recommed installing something like the TweetMeMe Plugin which adds a ReTweet button to every post. Plugins like DiggDigg and ShareBar also provide this option.*
    *I have both the sharebar and TweetMeMe plugins installed.
  2. I Want you to Know I Tweeted Your Shit!
    Yeah so I’m vain, but show me one blogger who isn’t! When I RT your stuff and you have not even bothered to take the time to add your @twitter_name to the Retweet plugin settings then it says a lot about you that you really don’t want it to say. Surely you care about who is sharing your content? What if you wanted to thank them?
    Kristi Hines of Kikolani fame recently posted a really detailed and helpful article on the subject titled – How To Increase Your ReTweets, Twitter Followers and Klout, and I strongly recommend you pop over and check it out (and not just because it’s got the word Klout in the title!)
  3. I Loved Your Post! I’m Going To Follow You…
    But I’m lazy. Most people are, so if I can’t find your RSS button, your Twitter button or any other ‘follow’ or ‘subscribe’ button anywhere then I’m not going to bother following you. Pity – we would have been awesome together!
  4. I Want to Keep Talking About This! Seriously…
    Some of the most important conversations that have taken place on my blog have not even involved me (no respect I tells you). If I had not allowed my readers to subscribe to the comments thread and stay in touch with the growing conversation I doubt it would have happened. Getting your readers to start engaging is the first step in building a thriving community. Install the ‘Subscribe To Comments‘ Plugin and give your readers the chance to talk.
  5. The Conversation is Confusing. Besides, I don’t like @ symbols.
    This is probably not your fault. Either you didn’t know until just now, or your WordPress Theme doesn’t support threaded comments. If you are in the former camp then there is help at hand.
    The most common oversight I see is the non use of Threaded Comments. This setting (in Discussions – under your Settings in WordPress Admin) means that when you reply to someone in your comments, that reply actually appears under the person to whom the reply is directed. This means no more @their_name to respond to people, and no more messy and confusing comment threads! (It also encourages conversation between readers)
  6. I Wrote The Most Wicked Awesome Post Yesterday, You Should See… Oh.
    No Matter how bad you wish it was about you, it’s not.
    Your Readers are the important ones, and sure they come to comment because they like you, but they also came to comment because they like themselves, and they want others to like them too. Make this process as easy as possible by installing the greatest plugin the social-blog-o-sphere (just made it up, promise I’ll NEVER use it again) has ever seen – CommentLuv.
  7. You Don’t Respond to Comments at all!?
    Either you’re really big, really ignorant – or Just Too Proud To Beg. Whatever the case – not reply to comments tells me that you’re not really interested in what I (or anyone) has to say, and worse still you don’t really respect your readers point of view either. There are some pretty big bloggers out there who still manage to respond to comments – Corbett Barr, Pat Flynn, just to name a few. Hell, even the Temptations would have replied had they had a blog ;)
  8. You’re the Man Without A Face. Or You’re a Roof Tiler from San Diego?
    There’s nothing stranger to me than the faceless blogger who leaves a valuable comment and remains nameless. I understand you want the keyword in your backlink I really do, but surely you were not christened Detroit Sound and Lighting* or iPhone 4 Cheats? Why take the time to leave an insightful comment – that clearly demonstrates expertise and a willingness to engage, only to then not sign your name? Each to their own I guess?
    *If your name really is Detroit Sound and Lighting, then seriously I think I may know some of your family! Any chance you are related to Michigan Sound and Lighting or Sound and Lighting Repair? They both came and commented on my blog! WOW, small world. Or did you tell them about me? Aww thanks Detroit ;)
  9. I Like You. No, I Reeeeaaaalllly Like You.
    That’s not in a creepy way. If you have a blog then the chances are you have a Facebook page too right? Make it easy for me to ‘Like’ your Facebook page by giving me easy access to it on your blog.
    Not only does the social interaction on another network help you grow your audience, the social proof that comes with having thousands of ‘Likes’ will only help grow your community expontentially in the long run.
  10. You’ve Fed me Dinner but Where’s My Dessert?
    I really enjoyed that post you wrote, and I even shared it with my followers – despite having to manually add your @Twitter_name to the RT. But now where do I go?
    Making your blog easily navigable is one thing, but giving your reader somewhere else to go is just as important. Not only does this increase pageviews and decrease bounce rate, it’s also easy to do. Install the Related Posts Plugin and let it find posts for others to link to when they are done with this one. Of course, if you know for a fact that there is a post that is particularly relevant then link to it there and then.
    Like I am about to do. Because speaking of giving your reader somewhere to go what about giving them somewhere to start.

Have You Got a Starting Point?

Pat Flynn of Smart Passive Income recently posted an article that was a real eye opener for myself and a lot of others on the importance of giving your reader a Starting Point. Although I had started to take steps to remedy this (see the BUILD A NICHE SITE TODAY section in my sidebar) the fact remains that Pat goes into so much more depth and considers so many more options that I simply did not take into account. The Post (Brilliantly) Titled ‘The Hole On Most Blogs (Including Mine) That Needs to Be Filled‘ is definitely a great place for you to head after reading this post (and commenting, and subscribing, and signing up to my course, and Retweeting this post, and Liking my page, and telling your… :) :) :) )

What Are Your Thoughts?

  • Do You Bother Sharing or Commenting if it is not made easy for you?
  • Do You Agree That Community is the Key to Building a Successful Blog?
  • Are You Going to ReTweet and?or share this Post?


Patricia@lavender oil April 2, 2011 at 9:43 PM

Hi Alex

One of the things I enjoy when I come here is I always get some great Aussie humour ;-) and of course some good content too.

The practical tips are some that I have noticed too. Unlike you, I do search for the tweet button…..alas sometimes there isn’t one. I usually tweet the person and ask where it is ??!! LOL

Community is definitely the way to go and I’m part of an amazing community, so no argument there. Those that interact and build community are usually the ones who have lots of readers and great conversations going on, even when the blog owner is not there.

And yes, as always will RT this post Alex LOL

Patricia Perth Australia

Alex April 5, 2011 at 11:25 PM

Sorry for the late reply Patricia,

This is what happens when you comment early, you end up at the BOTTOM of the list in my dashboard – no respect i tells you ;)

Thanks so much for your input – it is always appreciated and always highly cherished too – so let’s make a deal. You keep popping in and I’ll keep (trying to) be funny ;)

Jane | Find All Answers April 2, 2011 at 9:55 PM

Hey Alex,

Great shot! I am tired of informing people about the Tweet button and Twitter @ handle. The problem is, when they just put up the Twitter share button via the sharebar or the shareaholic plugin, they simply don’t change the @ handles from the settings page. They leave it with the default values.

I certainly won’t take the pain with

1. shortening the links myself
2. adding the twitter @ handle myself
3. manual sharing on twitter (copy pasting the url and writing the tweet myself.. nah!!)

Even if I want to tweet the post, I am busy. For this reason I sometimes just RT it from others.

Great post and a must read for every blogger.


Alex April 5, 2011 at 11:42 PM

Thanks Jane!

I appreciate your comments – especially because your frustrations echo mine exactly, although I am too vain to not add their @ twitter username if they have not done so themselves (of course I only do this if their twitter account is easy to find in the first place LOL)

cyberdv8 April 2, 2011 at 10:29 PM

and here i was thinking “Rawr” was dinosaur for i love you must get out my dino to human translation dictionary and research this…!

Seriously tho great post very valid points and especially with the retweet.. if a blog doesn’t have a retweet /tweet button i’m not likely to follow as i will forget about it where as if it comes up in my twitter feed i’m more likely to read it and retweet to my followers if i love the post.

Kudos on a great post Alex, and keep up the brilliant work.

P.S have you had enough of drills yet?

Alex April 5, 2011 at 10:51 PM

Hey Dani!

I should send you a special shout out actually – because it was you who gave me the idea to do that with your awesomely titled post “Rawr – It’s Dinosauir for I love you”

That was awesome!!!

PS: Don’t even talk to me about Drills, Cordless Drills, hammer Drills, with the incredible Lithium-Ion power….. SEE! SEE!! AAAAARGH

Dani April 6, 2011 at 11:51 AM

thanks gorgeous :) speaking of reptiles i was woken up with a request for a python this morning …so my next brain explosion will have something to do with snakes … which reminds me i seriously need to get back into my blogging and writing as well as my web design. Apparently though the day is only 24 hours long i think i should petition the powers that be for a 30 hour day so there’s enough time to sleep ;)

Lye Kuek Hin April 3, 2011 at 12:16 AM

Hi Alex,

I like the way that you present the post. I had a great read. Not only do i don’t like the 10 points you have listed above, at the same time, i am checking whether i make any of the mistakes.

Out of the 10, i can’t stand people who don’t bother to leave a name behind. It’s basic courtesy. By not leaving your name, you are not willing and prepare to engage into the community and just thinking about your own benefits. That’s very wrong to have this kind of mentality.

Thanks for the interesting post as always. Please keep your humor coming. Love it man.


Alex April 4, 2011 at 2:23 PM

Haha Thanks Lye!
I did the same thing as I wrote each point down LOL. Don’t want to be caught out now do I ;)

I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your insights Lye, and of course your feedback and compliments are ALWAYS appreciated :) :)

Evelyn April 3, 2011 at 12:34 AM

Hi Alex!

If a post is really good and there is no way for me to share, I will still share it. I have a few ways to share posts using my toolbar on my web browser. I even have the Stumbleupon tool bar, so it’s not a big deal to me if the blog doesn’t have a way for me to share the post. But I do prefer the blog have a way for me to share the post.

I totally agree that building community is a great way to build a successful blog. Community is key!

Yes, I will RT and also Stumble too. :)

Have a great weekend!

Evelyn P.

Alex April 4, 2011 at 2:22 PM

Hey Evelyn,

You Bring up a very good point about the fact that many of us have sharing bars installed onto our browser that negates the need for individual bloggers to make it easy.
Great point! No excuses though LOL

Thanks for stopping by Evelyn, good to see you again – and thanks for the shares of course! :)

Brandon@Pizaazz.com April 3, 2011 at 2:40 AM

#8 is one that really gets me. Don’t even think of approving comments unless they left a real name. name@keyword is the best option and nobody gets past me with at least that, or just a real name. You sound silly replying to someone with a keyword for a name.

Alex April 4, 2011 at 2:10 PM

You bring up a great point there Brandon.
Who wants to reply to a meaningful comment and address them as a keyword?@!

Murray April 3, 2011 at 3:56 AM

I have two sort of approaches to a lot of my online activity now:

A. I will read someone’s post but if I have nothing to add than I won’t leave a comment… but, I will share it with others on Twitter.

B. I’ll do everything I can to get the word out there by sharing it and interacting as much as possible.

Sometimes I’ll read a post and like it but I also know that I’m a “moderator” of some sort; I find value in the posts I read because I’ve been getting a bit selective from who I check out but it may not be the point where I’m going to highly interact so the best thing I can do is to share it online.

The other side is if I dig in and try to help as much as possible by adding to the conversation and getting it found.

Anyway, derp derp derp. Don’t really know where I’m going with this but just wanted to say that you’ve always got a great writing style Alex; always makes me laugh.

Alex April 4, 2011 at 2:10 PM

Haha thanks Murray!

Funny thing is – it was you and your bloody RT button with no @murlu that got me fired up enough to write this post in the first place LOL!

If I come over to Murlu or even PLRArticlesNow and there is no @twitter_username configured… God help me Murray….oooohh

Melanie Kissell @SoloMompreneur April 3, 2011 at 6:28 AM

Totally awesome topic — leaned in on every word.

One thing that drives me bananas is bloggers who don’t find it in their hearts to have a “subscribe to comments” plugin installed. Truthfully, Alex, I DON’T understand that approach. Do they think people have nothing better to do but keep returning to their blog all day long to see if MAYBE the owner/author has replied to their comment?! Or to check in and see if PERHAPS there’s a conversation taking place?!

No way, Jose — ain’t gonna happen.

And, actually, there’s someone we both know who does not invite her readers to subscribe to comments. I’m sitting on the fence as to whether I want to contact her about this issue or not. I’ve been keeping my lips zipped thinking she must have a motive for this madness. But I can’t imagine what it could be.

On a Twitter note …

Like Evelyn here, I have been known (on occasion) to Re-Tweet a post if it’s extraordinary — even though the RT button is “invisible”. It takes extra steps and extra time to complete the process and that’s why most people won’t do it. In every instance, I’ve put a suggestion in the comment box that the author install an RT button A.S.A.P. and an explanation of why it’s important. My advice usually gets ignored, but at least I can feel good about trying to help someone out.

Yes! I’ve Re-Tweeted your post. And Yes! Building a community of loyal readership is the key to having a successful blog.

Thanks for another good read,

Alex April 4, 2011 at 2:07 PM

Funny thing is Melanie – back in the day I remember I used to drop back in to see if my comment had been replied to. Oh sad and foolish me LOL
That’s hilarious that you don’t have this plugin – especially after the opening sentence – but then I had to go and check I was doing it all before I hit publish. ;)

Thanks so much for stopping by Melanie – and for sharing of course!! :)

Richard @ Lifestyle Design Unleashed April 3, 2011 at 9:20 AM

Alex I strongly believe in the power of community. Indeed if I’m brutally honest the community aspect of my sites is probably more important to me than the actual profits themselves. And yes – you certainly need to make life easy for readers to get involved. I have recently been experimenting with a plugin that displays an editable text box allowing visitors to tweet an article straight from your blog post – the potential is massive I think.

Alex April 4, 2011 at 1:56 PM

Hey Richard,

I have seen a few others using that plugin.
Love to know what the name of it is, how you are finding it and anything else of note.

nudge nudge hint hint ;)

Dennis Edell @ Direct Sales Marketing April 4, 2011 at 10:51 PM

Same wants as Alex, pretty please. :-)

Dennis Edell @ Direct Sales Marketing April 3, 2011 at 12:13 PM

Being really big/really ignorant are not mutually exclusive when it comes to comment replies, but I digress…

Alex April 4, 2011 at 1:55 PM

LOL So true.

And Digress away.

Dennis Edell @ Direct Sales Marketing April 4, 2011 at 10:49 PM

Oh dear friend, don’t even get me started on the 4-letter word guru, much less A-list, whatever the hell that means anyway. ;-)

Michael Pedzotti April 3, 2011 at 9:55 PM

Alex, it’s official – you need a glossary page to list and explain all your unique terms, including a list of common Strine terms for our cousins east of the great pacific lake :-)

Alex April 4, 2011 at 1:53 PM

“Strine” LOL – took me a couple of go’s before I finally realised what it said. LOL
Strueth mate you’re right.
“Stone the Flaming Crows – I carrrnt foind a plugin to do it for me but”

Richard April 4, 2011 at 1:35 AM

Hey Alex,
It is funny when I visit a blog that doesn’t give me the ability to share their posts. I always enjoy when you stop by and tell me you shared, liked, tweeted, stumbled, serped, blogged and burped my posts.

My next project is to figure out a way to add the all important “shared with my wife” button. ;)

Richard April 4, 2011 at 2:14 AM

BTW, Alex, you’ve inspired me to update and simplify my logo. Hope you like this one!

Alex April 4, 2011 at 1:47 PM

I do like this one – it’s awesome!

In fact- who ever did it should get some sort of award ;)

Alex April 4, 2011 at 1:48 PM

LMAO! Nice.

I like it! Seriously hahahaha. It carries a lot of kudos if you can get multi spousal shares – surely?

Dave Clements April 5, 2011 at 4:53 AM

It was initially startling to see what a hard line you seemed to be taking with people who made it hard to find a retweet button, or a link to your social media accounts, but in a world where people have less and less time every day, I think is becoming more common for people to act in this way. As a site owner, you have to make it immeasurably easy for others to share your article and interact with you, or risk losing a good number of readers. Great article!

Alex April 5, 2011 at 10:37 PM

Ha thanks Dave!

I like the way you put that “As a site owner, you have to make it immeasurably easy for others to share your article and interact with you”

Very nice.

Hardline indeed LOL

DiTesco April 5, 2011 at 10:58 PM

Absolutely right on this one Alex. First thing that people often neglect is the “power of a community”. Can’t stress enough the importance of this. Now let me see…. hmmm, where is RT button so I can share this one, lol. Easy its right there…. and I think this is just what people forget.. you have to make it easy for users to be able to engage. “Engaged To Be Engaged”..

SamOrchard April 7, 2011 at 1:18 AM

I’ve found that engaging with your readers via the comments is the best way to get even more comments. It encourages other people to comment and also lets the person you’re responding to know that you appreciate their comment.

Alex April 7, 2011 at 5:30 PM

Now I HAVE TO reply to this comment now don’t I!?! ;)

But seriously, you hit it on the head there. Community starts with engagement and engagement starts with a simple conversation.

Cheryl from thatgirlisfunny April 11, 2011 at 11:29 PM

Does tweetmeme show me my @name if I’m retweeting my own post? It didn’t show up when I just looked, but it does show up on my regular twitter button.

Alex April 12, 2011 at 9:09 PM

I just tested it and it seemed to work OK?

I think you have to set your twitter name in both the tweetmme and diggdigg settings pages

Sherryl Perry April 13, 2011 at 2:00 AM

Hi Alex,
I totally agree with you about community. People who ignore the value of it are missing out on a huge opportunity.

jane from faux floral arrangements April 20, 2011 at 12:45 AM

I completely agree about community, especially when you are building a site for enthusiasts or hobbysists, I completely agree about the tweet button also, but the facebook like? That I am not down with. I really am not interested in what my friends have bought, and I wouldn’t buy something cos they said they liked it, it just never occurs to me to click the button. But that is probably my hang up, and not a common one. Clearly, if we want people to share the information we write or video, we need to make it as easy as psosible.
Thanks for some links to other posts as useful as this one, I can see my regular reading has just become even longer :-)

Marie from Chocolate Diamonds April 20, 2011 at 12:48 AM

As a complete newb, this is really useful information. I’m off to make sure my blog has all the buttons and signups you mentioned. I havent got myself on twitter or facebook yet (I said I was a newb) but clearly thats something I need to do!

TJ McDowell@Photography Education April 20, 2011 at 7:34 AM

I haven’t installed the subscribe to comments plugin, but I’ve got a “Notify me of followup comments via e-mail” checkbox already there. Is this basically the same thing or do I still need to install the subscribe to comments plugin?

Wayne McEvilly May 22, 2011 at 9:39 PM

O.K. Quite a useful visit to the land of your blog! I love useful. I am a newbie blogger – important for me to ‘succeed’ – so I look for instruction in the blogs of experts. Lots of paydirt here. I also do NOT like to take instruction from anyone. So I end up responding to what I fancy I ‘already know’ (LOL) But I begin to see that what I know is hardly anything. So, I learned some things from you. Like, yes, I really ‘ought to’ put my tweet me link in my blog.
Well, I am now following you on twitter, and will visit as I come out of the fog a bit…in fact, my visits will be part of the process of emerging from the thick…
p.s. and Thank You very much!

Alex May 24, 2011 at 10:33 PM

Hey Wayne, love that you admit you hate taking advice, especially in the comments thread that by its very nature indicates that you are taking advice.
Nice :)

Glad you will be using my blog to help you emerge from the fog, but keep in mind that not only do things get quite hazy around here, the last time I saw ‘the light’ it turned out to be an oncoming bus. Not pretty for anyone involved (except the bus driver)

PS: And thank YOU very much.

cath May 23, 2011 at 5:50 AM

All of the above. What an eye opener! I’ve got some sharing and tweeting to do!

Alex May 24, 2011 at 10:30 PM

And in the running for the most awesomely succinct comment of the year award….

Thanks Cath, you’re awesome.

Shane Ryans May 26, 2011 at 6:08 AM

You make some really great points here. I myself haven’t got to much into twitter yet but I have been leaning towards the fact i may have to break down and figure it out.

Gail Gardner December 13, 2011 at 1:50 PM

I suspect that many bloggers aren’t doing these things because they don’t know they should more than because they don’t want to make it easy to interact. Besides all the excellent tips here there are two other things to consider: turning keywords on in CommentLuv and being dofollow.

There are millions of blogs now and collaborating consistently is key. What that means to me is that instead of spreading ourselves thin commenting and connecting with bloggers at random, our time is better spent selecting a core group of blogs we can consistently visit, share and comment in.

How each blogger chooses is totally up to them. For me, I am updating my lists and ranking blogs based on how well they use CommentLuv with KeywordLuv (or Keywords on in CommentLuv Premium) and CommentLuv fields dofollowed. I focus my time only on the blogs that choose to use CommentLuv and have at least one field dofollow.

Blogs with both fields dofollow are ranked highest and get the most shares, tweets, and comments. Those with dofollow keywords but nofollow CommentLuv are second in priority (because links with anchor text are more beneficial than links to post names – unless you name your posts with only your preferred anchor text – and that makes for less compelling titles that get less clicks). Third in priority are blogs with do follow CommentLuv links.

The reason for keywords is so that your commenters can benefit from quality anchor text AND be friendly and share their name, too. That is a better solution to your #8 concern than prohibiting keywords.

Most bloggers are not adequately seeing “the big picture” when they decide which comments to approve. Many are overly concerned with PageRank which is a red herring and not concerned enough with relevant links using anchor text between related blogs. I encourage all bloggers to read the post I’ll put in CommentLuv in this comment for why that matters.

DBA Solutions March 6, 2012 at 11:46 PM

Nice post! I haven’t still used Facebook and Twitter, I guess I was just remaining silent on the blah..blah…bloh…blogosphere till now :P

Alex March 21, 2012 at 2:02 PM

LOL nice reply :)

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